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Jennifer’s Letter to the World

Written by my client Jennifer, used with written permission.

Dear World:

Anyway, I started all this to ask you, World, to just accept me as I am. To love me, just as I am. For my entire life I believed I had to be different, to act different, to change just a little bit more to deserve love. But finally, I realized (was taught by Pella),

Written by my client Jennifer, used with written permission.

Dear World:

Anyway, I started all this to ask you, World, to just accept me as I am. To love me, just as I am. For my entire life I believed I had to be different, to act different, to change just a little bit more to deserve love. But finally, I realized (was taught by Pella), we ALL deserve love, even me, even in our imperfect states.

So today, I make my proclamation of emancipation. My declaration of interdependence. All these years I worked to fix myself and blame myself for others not being able to see my good qualities. Today, I'm done with all that. I am a good person. Yes, I have made many, many, many, many mistakes. I still make mistakes, every day. Some of them, I am embarrassed to say, I even repeat. But my heart is beautiful, and that makes me beautiful. Even in its fragile, broken state, my heart beats bright and true and loud and shines and sings through the darkest of days.

And I am not alone. And I need you, my friends, my acquaintances, my future loves, to remind me from time to time. I need to depend on you, in a way I have never allowed myself to do. Just as I need to depend on myself, and open, and trust, and trust, and trust.

I will make this world a better place. I will be a better person every day. And I will remember, I am good enough now.

Love,
Jennifer

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