AN EMPOWERED APPROACH TO FINDING


A LASTING, LOVING RELATIONSHIP...

Q & A:“Is the advice to let the guy lead still good advice?”

Q: Hey Pella, I've had 4 dates with a guy named Matthew whom I met at a party...

Q & A "I'm Dating Other People..."

Q: Dear Pella, Now I'm sort of dating these 2 guys...

Why Lovers are Like Food...

Imagine you are really hungry. You skipped breakfast and lunch. It’s 3 PM and your stomach is screaming “Feed me, feed me!”

Q & A: "So, um, are you looking to settle down?"

Q: Dear Pella, When is it okay to start asking questions about your date's hopes and plans for the future?

Q & A: What do I do while I wait? Should I settle?

Q: Dear Pella, What do I do in this time leading up to finding a partner and starting a family?

Q & A: When do we move from online messaging to an actual date?

Q: Dear Pella, A J-Dater has corresponded via J-Date email back and forth five times...

Are you ready to take the plunge?

Questions to ask yourself before committing for the long haul.

Do You Know Your Attachment Style?

When I work with a new client, one of the first things I help them determine is their attachment style.

Top 18 Reasons to Run the Other Way

The heartache - or the relief - at the end of a relationship.

Do you suffer from Dating Fatigue Syndrome?

There’s a syndrome going around among many of my clients that is as normal as the common cold. I’ve dubbed it Dating Fatigue Syndrome.

Jennifer’s Letter to the World

Written by my client Jennifer, used with written permission.

How to Love Your Inner Ugly Duckling

My client Isabelle* is a beautiful 45 year old woman.

MY BROKEN RADAR (A PERSONAL STORY)

I’m sharing about my personal story today. It’s vulnerable to write about it, but I think it’s really important for you to know, so I’m going for it even though it's a little scary. Thanks for reading with an open heart.

SURVIVING THE HOLIDAYS: SOLO

The holidays can be a really lonely time when you’re single.

Breaking Up is Hard To Do

We've all been there.

That awkward dinner, painful phone call, or even the surprising email (true story).

4 Principles of Empowered Dating:

1. There is nothing wrong with being single.

It is possible to have a full life while single and that is a legitimate choice. Some people choose this for certain periods of time, some for the long term.

How Do You Stay Inspired to Keep Dating?

It's hard to stay inspired to keep dating if you are in a place of hopelessness or fear. If you're sure you're not going to get what you want, why bother?

Why Self-Care is a Radical Act (and Why "Selfish" is a Good Thing)

First of all, let's define what we're talking about. What do I mean when I say "self-care?"

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WHAT MY CLIENTS SAY:

"I would not be where I am in my love life without you and the work we did together. I am a completely new person around intimacy and finally found someone who is exactly the kind of quality person that you encouraged me to look for! With your help, I am where I want to be - in a healthy, loving relationship."

- Shay (Married May 2016)
"Pella helped me identify what was really important to me in a relationship. She is insightful, wise and kind. Working with her is like meeting up with an old friend who just happens to be an expert on dating and relationships. She is non-judgmental, positive and cares about your love life (probably as much as you do)."

- Jill (in serious relationship since January 2016)
I'm really grateful for the work we did together. You started me down a path where I could imagine what I wanted in a relationship and the conditions necessary to get there. Of course, there was some luck involved in connecting with S -- and I feel very, very lucky -- but you also helped put me in a place where I could see and want and pursue the wonderful person that entered my life."

- David (in serious relationship)
“I am grateful to you for sharing your wisdom and kindness. I'm regularly amazed and impressed by your breadth and depth of insights, from the practical to the profound. Your expertise is truly valuable and I know I'm in good hands with you.”

- Zah (in new relationship)
Pella really understands her clients. She is smart, experienced and savvy and knows exactly the right questions to ask to lead you to find your answers within yourself. I would highly recommend Pella as a dating coach!”

- Allison (actively dating)
“I have worked with many coaches and therapists over the years and Pella truly stand outs. What makes her unique is her ability to show up in her fully authentic self. I have grown so much in my work with her. Pella has the ability to see the bigger picture in regards to my past and present which makes me believe in my future. She has helped me travel such a long distance in such a short time. I can’t recommend Pella's dating coaching highly enough!

- Daniel (actively dating)
"Pella implemented certain tools which allowed me to quickly clarify what I was looking for and she was a wonderful support to then keep me on track to honor those desires through our weekly meetings. Working closely with her has allowed me to stay true to myself and my desires. She is greatly empowering! She offers objective, loving observations and feedback that really helped to see my situation from another perspective. Don’t waste any more time with the wrong people - get Pella’s help immediately!"

- Charlotte (actively dating)

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